I need your advice on how to get over this girl that I somehow can’t get over even if I know for a fact that she is bad for my health.
We met during a popular annual event last year and we hit it off very well. She introduced me to her mother and she was very nice to me.
I am not really handsome but I figure if I spend heavily on a woman-especially those in Dominica- then you are in for a long time.
Bella I would buy her mother lunch, dinner, take them out and all. And her mother loved that. I bought clothes, shoes, hair and even ham and turkey Christmas gone. Cellphone costing $900 even.
And even if she is just 16, her mother didn’t mind because I was helping them out.
I thought at first her mom would say I was too old because I am 33. But she didn’t mind at all.
But all of a sudden, the relationship got cold. Her mom wouldn’t send her at my house again and even the mother cold with me.
I distanced myself and then last week she told me she wanted to end the relationship.
Next thing I heard she have a new boyfriend and the mother always up and down on his ride.
I guess she didn’t remember when I use to walk all the way Morne Bruce to bring food for her.
I miss her and I know I shouldn’t because I feel that they were using me.
So, I am asking if you could help me get over her. Like not to think of her again or even remember the way she hurt me.
I don’t know if you expected anything serious to derive from a relationship with a 17-year-old.
And you could be right in your thinking that you were used.
Sometimes things happen to allow us to realize our mistakes and to save us from the catastrophe that we create for ourselves.
Condition your mind and tell yourself the story ended the best way.
Find someone more mature if you really want a serious relationship. You should never try to buy love using material things.
Furthermore, a mother “selling out”, her 16-year-old girl for monetary gains is clearly a red flag. It appears that this is a pattern.
Moving forward learn that money cannot buy you love irrespective of how society may put it.
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